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Where can I find out more about the BDSM lifestyle ?

The following is a list of books available, both online and in some of the larger book stores. These books can help answer some of your questions regarding the psychology of why we do what we do.

Almost all of these books are available online at or

SM:101   by Jay Wiseman; Greenery Press ISBN# 0-9639763-8-9

Sensuous Magic  by Pat Califa.  

The Bottoming Book: How To Get Terrible Things Done To you By Wonderful People; Easton 

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to talk about it and how to do it safely; by  William Henkins, Daedalus published in 1996

Erotic Power: An Exploration of Dominance and Submission;  ISBN # 0-8065-0968-6  

S & M: Studies in Dominance & Submission; ISBN # 0-87985-978-X

The following are just pretty good books... for different reading... humor, information, etc.

Miss Abernathy's concise slave training manual ; San Francisco, Greenery Press, 1996 ISBN # 0-9639763-9-7

Erotic Tales of Women's Power....By Her Subdued......(and) No Other Attributes; Rhinocereos, c1995 

Submissions;  New York Masquerade Books Rhinoceros publishing ISBN # 1-56333-207-8 

Different Loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance & Submission;  NY Random House, 1993 ISBN # 0-679-40873-8

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission; NY Random House, 1993 ISBN # 0-679-76956-0 

Mistress Mine  Masquerade NY 1993 ISBN # 1-56333-109-8 

Masochism;  Zone Books 1991 ISBN # 0-942299-55-8

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism; Mystic Rose Books, 1995 ISBN # 0-9645960-0-8 

Venus in Furs; NY Blasts Books 1989 ISBN # 0-922233-01-2

The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by Lady Green; Greenery Press Lady Green describes how to do an SM Scene in a simple step-by-step way.  For someone who's very nervous about trying SM, this is the most non-intimidating book that we've seen.    It has sections on sensations, playing with roles, and helplessness.   

Getting Her Interested by Lorelei; A practical guide for the submissive man who wants to encourage his partner to develop her dominant side.  How can you first introduce the subject? What should you avoid saying or doing?  Lorelei includes guidelines for your first scene. 

S&M: A Players Handbook by Lady Tanith A guide for novices, with sections on starting to play, toys & techniques, and finding a partner.  


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